Healing Memories of Faye “Susie” Chapa
In Our Hearts
My sister had a generous heart, a big smile and a playful spirit. She was proper about everything and we used to tease her about being so fussy but she left her special touch by making sure everything was neat, clean and orderly. Her home was decorated with flair, her unique fashion style (she loved the color RED), makeup and jewelry were her trademark. She loved regular coke and enjoyed a little chocolate too as noted by her full candy dish at home and work which she filled with good chocolate to share with anyone that passed by her desk or came to her home.
Faye who we called Susie was born and lived in St. Paul, she had worked in the banking industry for many years and loved her position at Wells Fargo as HR Liaison. She loved being in the middle of everything and like my parents made friends everywhere she went, she kept those relationships going for a lifetime as she loved people. Susie never married, she never had children and I always thought this was a shame because she had such a tremendous capacity for love that she shared with family and friends alike.Â
Susie loved to travel and her first big trip after she graduated was to Hawaii, she made a couple trips and told us how much she loved the ocean. The ocean and sea shells became a constant theme in her decor at home and work. The past few years she traved to Cancun with myself and my sister Lisa and she had shared with me last year that Cancun was now her favorite place surpassing her love of Hawaii. Perhaps that’s why she ignored the signs and syptoms that began a few days before she left on her trip or maybe she was afraid her doctor would tell her to stay for more tests. Irregardless she told me Monday night during our phone conversation that she had been short of breath just before she left for her trip but she thought is was due to a little weight gain. She said maybe it was anxiety due to the excitement of her vacation and when her friends pressured her to see her physician she thought she would be fine so she left for Mexico last Saturday but by Sunday morning and Monday she was in distress and many miles away from home. My younger sister Lisa said they saw a physician at the resort twice and the plan was for me to talk to her primary care physician here and to have a phone conference early Tuesday to determine next steps but unfortunately by the next morning it was too late.
Heart Attack symptoms are often missed by women because we do not always respond the same way men do when we are having a full blown attack. My sister did NOT have chest pain, she had anxiety, shortness of breath and eventually indigestion and nausea.  Susie had anxiety attacks occasionally so perhaps we all made a deadly assumption about her symptoms. When we lose a loved one there is always guilt over what we wish we would have done differently and I’m thinking when we are past the funeral and grief I’d like to do something more to celebrate her life and make a difference for other women. I’m not sure what that means yet, it’s just too soon to think about it but I’ll think of something.
I miss my sister,
Mary
April 18, 2009
· 
Mary · 
4 Comments
Tags: anxiety, cancun, family, friends, healthcare, heart attack, heart disease, hope, Nurse, shortness of breath, Sister, tough times, vacation, women's heart attack symptoms · Posted in: Healing
Mary Chapa is a multi-talented woman with a background in nursing management, sales and marketing in both healthcare and private industry. Mary is also a writer, storyteller and holistic health practitioner living in Minnesota.
4 Responses
Very touching Mary. I know how close you are to your family and to have 2 losses this year, must be so overwhelming. Thank you as well for the additional information about women’s health. I know many women do overlook their symptons when they should be getting things looked at.
I know Susie is in a good place, hanging out with your dad….watching over you and the family enjoying from their box seats:)
Talk to you soon,
Lisa
Mary I have to say that the strength you’ve shown through this is humbling and I appreciate that you have shared your experience with us the entire way. I’ve been able to participate as a friend through your notes and blog entries but I also learned something valuable about HD in women I’m not likely to ever forget. In a way, Susie will live on in our hearts, simply because you shared her, and her story, with us. Thank you
so glad ive read this, its answered my questions, my thoughts are with you
Mary, thank you for your memories of Faye. All of us can think of the many ways that Faye brought joy an love into our lives. She had a gift where she would bring her fun and exciting spirit to whomever she touched. Also, thanks for sharing the important information on HD in women. Like Faye, you are helping to make where we live a better place. – Thanks
Leave a Reply