Posted by Mary on May 5, 2009
I wrote a small item awhile ago on my friend Sherry a Breast Cancer Survivor; although new at the business of “thriving” she is running joyously toward her new beginnings. I received her email blast last evening where she routed her wedding pictures to those of us who are fortunate to be in her circle of family and friends. I had received a voice message from her Sunday night telling me she was thinking of me and just hearing her voice was a tonic for my soul. In the mist of her celebration she remembered to share my grief, holding me in her heart as I work through the physical, legal and emotional business of closing out my sister’s affairs.
As I scrolled through the pictures of my friends wedding I was delighted to see the ecstatic Joy that my dear friend shows, especially the glow of love and appreciation for her children, her loving new husband Mike and for the friends and family surrounding her. The pictures are a reminder that the circle of life goes on and while we don’t always get a choice about what life throws in our path we do have a choice about our response to life events.
A Joyous Wedding
I look at the wedding pictures again and I see Gratitude with a touch of humiliy on the face of my dear friend Sherry, an appreciation for the opportunity to continue to embrace life and play with those she loves and holds dear. The process of healing our grief over the loss of my sister will take time for those of us who loved Faye Susanne. As my sisters and I work through the reality of closing out my sister Susie’s apartment and the very personal pieces of her life we are faced with a critical choice, “how will we embrace life without her? “
I hope we have the courage to embrace life with forgiveness and boundless Joy for what we have now just like my friend Sherry. There is a part of Sherry that reminds me of my sister Susie and it’s her unadulterated expectation to live life fully in love. My sister Susie lived from her Heart, smiling at life, looking for and expecting people to share her laughter and love of life surrounded by family and friends.
Congratulations Sherry and Mike!
Mary
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Posted by Mary on March 29, 2009
Another Sunday and it’s been a very full week with numerous life events including my sick dog, an interview, educational conference at Mayo, a car accident, a close friend carrying a heavy burden and a note from another dear friend that I am choosing to share. I met Sherry less than 5 months ago but somehow sharing our stories it seems like we’ve been friends for ages and that’s how it has been for me the past 2 years on this journey. I don’t want to digress but this is my message from Sherry as she celebrated her last day of radiation treatment last Friday:
“You’re being pinked on what is the last day of the radiation treatment for my breast cancer diagnosed on 11/5/08. In this long winter of my soul, each of you has been the medicine which contributes to my victory today. For your love, your willingness to be my cheerleaders, my listeners, my confidants and my hope, I thank you with a heart that overflows with gratitude. Most of all, so often, you carried this challenge for me when its weight threatened to buckle me. Because you were willing to reach within yourselves and care for a fellow life traveler, I emerge victorious today. I realize fully that the future requires my vigilance to maintain the health my treatments have yielded, but one of the primary lessons on this journey is to stay vigilant for my own well being. I hope that is a lesson for your lives, as well. In reality, all anyone ever has is the moment. Let’s live it fully!
I stand now with new direction and meaning for my life. I am determined, with the help of each of you and so many others who care about integrative medical care for our community, to bring a breast cancer center to the Chippewa Valley. We deserve no less than integrative care which honors our hearts, minds and spirits. Our job is to hold to the vision and to each other because it is in that sacred space that change happens. Together, we are a force of life that will make the way better for our fellow travelers.
Do your breast exams, listen to your inner voice and know that this disease cannot rob us of our dignity as we stand united in support of one another. Thank you for sharing the journey. With all my love, Sherry”
As I reflect on this week and think about my friends and family and hold them near I happened to notice an article by Michael J. Fox as he writes about his life with Parkinson’s disease and he states, “It’s the courage to look at something and say, however bad this is, it isn’t bad infinitely. You can make choices in a process like this and turn in the direction of the condition or disease and give it permission to take over” He is choosing to face in the direction of Life. Listening to the news on the state of the economy and the life problems that go on in the world and right here within my circle of friends and family, I want to be brave like my friend Sherry and always choose life, choose compassion, love and gratitude.
Wishing you a week of generosity,
Mary
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