Posted by Mary on May 5, 2009
I wrote a small item awhile ago on my friend Sherry a Breast Cancer Survivor; although new at the business of “thriving” she is running joyously toward her new beginnings. I received her email blast last evening where she routed her wedding pictures to those of us who are fortunate to be in her circle of family and friends. I had received a voice message from her Sunday night telling me she was thinking of me and just hearing her voice was a tonic for my soul. In the mist of her celebration she remembered to share my grief, holding me in her heart as I work through the physical, legal and emotional business of closing out my sister’s affairs.
As I scrolled through the pictures of my friends wedding I was delighted to see the ecstatic Joy that my dear friend shows, especially the glow of love and appreciation for her children, her loving new husband Mike and for the friends and family surrounding her. The pictures are a reminder that the circle of life goes on and while we don’t always get a choice about what life throws in our path we do have a choice about our response to life events.
A Joyous Wedding
I look at the wedding pictures again and I see Gratitude with a touch of humiliy on the face of my dear friend Sherry, an appreciation for the opportunity to continue to embrace life and play with those she loves and holds dear. The process of healing our grief over the loss of my sister will take time for those of us who loved Faye Susanne. As my sisters and I work through the reality of closing out my sister Susie’s apartment and the very personal pieces of her life we are faced with a critical choice, “how will we embrace life without her? “
I hope we have the courage to embrace life with forgiveness and boundless Joy for what we have now just like my friend Sherry. There is a part of Sherry that reminds me of my sister Susie and it’s her unadulterated expectation to live life fully in love. My sister Susie lived from her Heart, smiling at life, looking for and expecting people to share her laughter and love of life surrounded by family and friends.
Congratulations Sherry and Mike!
Mary
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Posted by Mary on April 2, 2009
I dropped my little dog off to be groomed today for the first time, some of you are aware that I took in a rescue poodle, a tiny toy male at 3.6 lbs. We’ve had him for a month now and it’s been a wonderful addition to our family, I’d forgotten the unconditional love you get from a small pet. It’s been a joy to have this lively little dog in our lives as we care for him, play with him and watch him make us laugh. We’ve also had the unexpected joy of running to the emergency Vet Clinic after hours and adding extra Dr. exams as we “remember” what it’s like to be responsible for a tiny little life but it’s worth it, the joy, the laughter and the sense of wonder at life’s blessings.
It helps me to remember life’s gifts in the mist of my own personal disappointments. As I listen to the news or hear personal stories from friends and family as they try to balance and make sense out of difficult situations, job loss, putting homes up for sale, spending down retirement funds and just trying to make ends meet I’m too embarrassed to acknowledge any personal defeats. Everyone else has burdens that somehow seem bigger than mine and I’m constantly reminded as someone tentatively asks for my help with some personal matter, how can I say “No?” At times like these I think about my Dad, I miss him on Sundays when my husband and I took him out for breakfast, he liked to go early before the fancy Sunday brunch crowd. My Dad loved to laugh, he was a WWII veteran, a POW for over 3 years and survived the Bataan Death March, when I think of the stories he shared over the years and the joy for life that he had it’s hard to feel sorry for myself. Dad was a “pick yourself up by your bootstraps” kind of guy; when he died last September we had lots of wonderful memories, he left a lot of friends and family behind. Dad always believed in Hope – that there was always something better just waiting for you around the corner and if you worked hard enough it would all pay off.
So for today Dad, I’m going to think about my small disappointment as a place holder, creating space for something more wonderful that’s just around the corner. What about you, are you looking at what space is opening up for you in your life and what that means? I got an email from a friend this morning that said due to the economy they are putting their home in Florida up for sale and moving back to Minnesota and my response was a resounding “HURRAH!” Well, Hurrah for me and my friends as we open our arms to welcome her back to our loving fold no matter what the reason.
Eternally Optimistic,
Mary
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